Change is constant: embrace the change, because fighting it changes nothing.
- Too dark? I keep changing little things around the house, to make steps and remind myself of the new normal; balance between burning it all down and keeping it a shrine. Small changes. Like I'd had this little sign custom-made for her because she liked the slogan. I wasn't ready to throw or hide it away. But it no longer fit my/our reality... and needed modifying. So a little black-tape repair, and it changed from a temple to her/us, to a darkly inspirational reminder for me. Life changes. This sucks. But it doesn't suck so much that I can't carry on, and thrive without her. Life goes on. People on the grief forums loved it -- you can't erase the past, just tape over it and go on.
- I also created a Resources Section, for some of the things I've read or been involved in. Maybe that will help some others.